Connect to your inner child

The “inner child” is understood as a psychological complex, much like what Freud identified as the “id” “ego” and “superego.” It is a part of ourselves that is unconscious and yet shapes many of the decisions we make and how we come to understand ourselves. When it is not explored it could result in many behavioral, emotional and relational difficulties in adulthood.

In my work with providing psychotherapy, I find the “inner child” to be vital part of the human person and worth exploring regardless of what age the person is when they come in for therapy. Many people who are in therapy want to talk about this part, whether they are conscious of it or not. It makes a lot of sense because this part is often the keeper of many wounds and internalized irrational beliefs. Once explored, we often see when and how ruptures occurred and why they never were repaired. This exploring provides deeper understanding and self-acceptance, which are essential to living an authentic life.

The more a person can use understanding and acceptance to nurture the “inner child,” the more the inner child can grow and develop into a functional, rational and healthy adult. Essentially, you’re learning how to “re-parent” yourself so that the child within you can learn new ways to cope and view themselves and their surroundings.

This work is most successful through professional therapy due to the sensitivity of the subject matter and the high probability of being triggered and/or needing support. However, outside of therapy there are many ways to reconnect with this child including the Inner Child Meditation Meditation as seen below, play, watching a beloved childhood television show/move, listening to a favorite childhood song, curling up with your childhood blanket, looking at old pictures of yourself as a child, writing a letter to your childhood self, or writing a letter to your adult self written by your childhood self, and/or reconnecting with childhood friends.

It is advised that whatever you choose to do to reconnect with this part, you do it with love and compassion. This part will thank you later for it.

For more information on the “inner-child” check out this great article by Dr. Stephen Diamond featured on Psychology Today.